Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Been with my company 7 years. Two coworkers who started after me both got promoted in the last year. My manager said I'm doing great work but "not quite ready". The timing is weird
Work is insane right now, understaffed, deadlines moved up, and I feel like I'm drowning. Come home and kids need homework help, wife needs me to handle dinner, house is a mess. Li
Had my son burst into my home office during a client call yesterday screaming that his sister took his toy. Literally nothing I could do. Just sat there apologizing while he's in t
Work is insane right now, understaffed and my boss wants everything yesterday. Then I come home and I'm expected to be present with my 2 kids. I'm running on coffee and anger. By 8
So I've been working from home for 2 years and it was great. Now my 8 month old is here and I can't get anything done. My wife goes back to work next month and I'm supposed to do f
Got offered a promotion but it would mean traveling 2 weeks a month. My kids are 4 and 6. I know I should take the advancement but my gut is screaming no. My wife says she'll suppo
Took 3 months off when my twins were born and man, being back in the office feels weird. I'm happy to be working again but I'm missing so much. My 18 month old son said a new word
Company is letting me work from home 3 days a week but I keep thinking about what people will say. Know it's dumb but feel like I'll look like I'm not committed or not a team playe
Took 8 weeks after my second kid was born and it was incredible. Now I'm back and feel like I've been completely replaced. My projects got reassigned, my team barely acknowledges m
Getting through a major project at work and the last 3 weeks have been brutal. Leaving at 6am, getting home around 8pm, kids are already asleep most nights. My oldest asked my wife
Manager offered me a director role last week. Better pay, better title, more prestige. But the hours are insane and I'd have to travel 3 weeks a month. My oldest has soccer, my dau
Took 6 weeks off after our third kid was born and it was amazing. Got to be there for everything. But now I'm back in the office and I'm watching my wife juggle everything alone wh
My job is incredibly stressful lately. Layoffs happening, unrealistic deadlines, toxic manager. I come home frustrated and irritable and take it out on my wife and kids for stupid
Been working from home for 2 years now and I thought it would be perfect. Turns out my boss expects me to be available 24/7 and my kids think I'm not really 'at work' so they inter
I have 8 weeks off and I should be exhausted but honestly it's amazing to just be here. Newborn screaming at 3am doesn't even bother me because it's my kid and I'm not stressed abo
Had a chance to move up last month but it would've meant traveling like 40% of the time. My kids are still young and I didn't want to miss their childhood for more money. Wife was
Working from home since my youngest was born and it's not the blessing everyone says it is. My boss expects me to be available same as before but my kid needs me during the day. My
I took 6 weeks when my second was born and I have zero regrets even though my boss made me feel guilty about it. First week was chaos, second week I actually got the hang of things
I provide for my family, I'm there most evenings and weekends, but I still feel like I'm failing because I'm not there for every moment. My wife says I'm being ridiculous but the m
That's terrible to say right? I have two kids and a mortgage but the job was destroying me. 60+ hour weeks, constant stress, and I was becoming someone my kids didn't recognize. I'