Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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She went back to her job 5 months post-baby and honestly we underestimated how much this would shake things up. She's exhausted, I'm exhausted, baby is in daycare, and somehow the
So I got recruited for a role that explicitly caps hours at 40/week max, slightly lower pay than I make now, but fully remote. On paper it sounds perfect. But part of me is like...
Started freelance writing on the side about 8 months ago when I went down to 4 days/week at my job. Honestly? It's the best decision I made. I make maybe $800-1200/month which help
I work in construction, so some weeks I'm out the door at 5:30am and home at 6:30pm. My kids (4 and 7) are already fed by the time I get there. They're tired. I'm exhausted. We may
Seriously, is this normal or are we getting robbed? Looking at places for our 18mo and everything is $2k+ a month. We have two kids (3yo in pre-K), so we're looking at like $3,500/
Seriously. $2200/month for my 2-year-old in the DC area. That's more than my car payment, more than our mortgage payment almost, and it's literally the cheapest option near us. I'm
TL;DR: Convinced my boss to let me do 4 long days (10 hours) instead of 5 regular days so I can be home by 2pm on Wednesdays. Started last month and honestly it's been a game chang
That's an exaggeration but she was COLD to me. Took hours for her to warm up. My wife said she asked about me every day but I guess that wears off. This is my third trip this quart
School's 8:30-2:45, my hours are 8-5. Daycare for the gap costs almost as much as school. My 2nd grader just sits in aftercare for 2+ hours 4 days a week doing... nothing mostly.
Ngl I see a lot of posts about making bedtime sacred and being fully present with your kids. Cool, that's nice. But like... sometimes I'm just tired? Sometimes I read the books on
We use Google Calendar but it's a mess with divorce stuff (custody schedule, handoff days, my work calendar). Wife's new partner is also in the mix sometimes. Looking for something
Left a stable $130k role in May to do consulting. Wanted flexibility, wanted to be there for pickup, wanted to call my own shots. Pros: I've actually made 3 pickups this year. Ki
We live in Seattle and paying $2,100/month for my 2-year-old to go to daycare 3 days a week. THREE DAYS. My wife makes more so it made sense for me to cut back, but holy crap, at w
Been using Supportiv for the past few months to talk through work anxiety (mostly the guilt/stress of being gone 50+ hours/week) and it's genuinely helped more than I expected. Way
I leave the office at 5:30 most days, home by 6. So I'm there for dinner, bath time, bedtime stories. Sounds perfect right? Except I'm checking Slack the entire time. Last night my
Asking for a friend. (It's me. I'm the friend.) Some days I just sit in the parking lot for 10 mins before heading home and decompress. Work stress + home stress + being "on" all t
Wife just had our second kid 3 weeks ago. I have a conference in Denver in 4 weeks that's pretty important for my career. It's 3 days. Part of me thinks I should just skip it. Par
Our daycare just raised rates to $2,400/month for our 18-month-old. TWENTY-FOUR HUNDRED. That's more than our mortgage payment. My salary after taxes and this daycare bill basicall
Been asking about this for like a year. My manager finally approved me working 7am-3pm instead of 8-5. Means I can pick up my kids from school instead of them going to after-care.
Just got back from a 4-day conference in Vegas. My kids were fine, my wife held down the fort. Logically I know this is normal and necessary. But my 3yo wouldn't make eye contact w