Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Took 3 months when my youngest was born. My company seemed cool with 2 weeks but I pushed for more and they approved it. Those 3 months bonded me with my son in a way I never had w
Been working from home for 2 years now. Saved hours on commute and I'm actually present for my kids. But my work creeps into everything. I'll be at dinner checking emails. Wife fin
Started a side hustle 5 years ago because I wanted flexibility. Now I'm making decent money but working 60+ hours a week. Left corporate so I wouldn't miss my kids but I'm just mis
Got offered a promotion that would require more travel and longer hours. Year ago I would've jumped on it. But my 5yo has soccer, my 8yo needs help with homework, and my marriage n
Even though I'm present, I feel like I'm half-assing everything. Not fully engaged at work because I'm thinking about my kids. Then I get home and I'm tired so I'm not as present a
Just finished my paternity leave and I have to say, those two weeks changed everything for me. I got to actually be present when my daughter was born and help my wife through the h
Had my first day back in the office yesterday and forgot how exhausting commuting is. Left the house at 7:15, didn't get home until 6. By the time I got back my kids were already i
Pretty sure he was testing me when he asked why I'm 'always rushing out' at 5. I told him straight up - I have kids. Daycare closes at 5:30. If I'm late I get charged 1 dollar per
Pro: I can see my kids for lunch and drop them at school. Con: Work never stops because my office is literally my bedroom closet and my kids think if the door is closed I'm availab
Three months at home with the baby was incredible but now I'm back full time and missing everything. My wife texts me videos of all the new stuff our daughter is doing and I feel l
I'm in my home office like 15 feet away from my kids but I can't just drop everything every time they want to show me their drawing or ask a question. My son asked me why I couldn'
Got offered a director level position that would mean way more travel and longer hours. More money obviously, and it would look great on the resume. But my oldest is in his last ye
Took my two weeks and honestly it felt like two days. Now I'm back in the office and my inbox has like 200 emails. My boss wants me in three meetings tomorrow and all I can think a
After two years of negotiating with my company I got approval to work from home full time. First week is wild. I'm getting more work done somehow, not spending an hour commuting, a
Took a full month off after baby number two arrived. Thought I'd be great at this. Day 4 and I'm realizing how much my wife does every single day. I'm exhausted, baby's crying, my
I work 50 hours a week minimum, my wife works 30. We split kid duties as fairly as we can but math doesn't math when one person is working more. Missed my daughter's school play b
When they let us go permanent remote post-covid I was skeptical. But dude, being home means I actually see my kids in the morning. I do drop offs, I'm here when they get home, we d
Just kidding but seriously I've been so tired that when the Keurig went down I almost lost it. Between the baby waking up at night and work being absolutely bonkers with the quarte
Project in Chicago needs hands on site. Two weeks. My oldest has his school play on the 22nd and I promised my youngest we'd build that model rocket. Told my manager I need to thin
I've had 10 weeks with my newborn and honestly it's been the best stretch of my life. Yeah I was exhausted and yeah I didn't shower some days, but being there for feedings at 3am a