Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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New project at work is eating up all my time and I'm missing stuff with the kids. Worked late 5 nights this week and barely saw them before bed. Wife is frustrated, kids asked why
Kid fell off the monkey bars and they needed me to come get him. Had to step out of a client call to go pick him up. He's fine just a scraped knee but the guilt of leaving that mee
First time having real extended time with the baby and honestly it went too fast. We bonded way more than I expected and now going back to work feels wrong. Already missing nap tim
So I've been working from home for 2 years now and I thought it would be great. No commute, more time with the kids, right? Wrong. Now I'm answering emails at 9pm and my kids think
Taking 4 weeks of paternity leave when baby #2 arrives next month. This will be my second time around but I'm still nervous about how it'll go with a toddler in the house too. My c
Got offered a promotion that would mean traveling twice a month and longer hours. Pay bump is solid but my youngest is only 6. I keep thinking about all the practices and family di
Got the job I've been working toward for 5 years. Pay is great, title looks good on LinkedIn, but I'm traveling 3 weeks a month and my kids barely know me anymore. My oldest asked
Took 6 weeks off when my second son was born and holy crap, I wish I'd done this with my first. Got to see him hit all those early milestones, my wife actually got real rest instea
So my company decided remote was too good to be true and now we're hybrid. I was actually productive at home, didn't have a 45 minute commute, and could eat lunch with my kids. Now
Working from home with a 4 and 2 year old running around during the day is absolutely wild. My wife handles most of it but I still hear screaming during my calls, I'm trying to foc
Took a sick day yesterday because my 6 year old had a stomach bug and needed someone home. Boss was cool with it but I got some work emails asking for updates. My old self would ha
So I took 8 weeks off when my second was born and honestly it was amazing. Now I'm back in the office 3 days a week and I feel like I'm missing everything. My wife is handling most
Partner wants me to take a less demanding job so I can be more present with the kids but it's a 15k pay cut. We're not hurting financially but that money helps with their activitie
Two years ago I thought I'd never work from home but covid forced it and man what a game changer. I can do pickup from school, help with homework, and still hit my deadlines. My bo
My company let me negotiate 4 10 hour days instead of 5 8s. So I work Mon-Thu and have Friday to handle all the stuff that was piling up. Doctor appointments, grocery shopping, hel
Had 8 weeks with my newborn and it's been incredible. Been doing bottles, diapers, and actually sleeping when the baby sleeps instead of working. Go back to the office full time Mo
Got offered a senior manager role with a significant raise. Problem is it's going to require a lot more hours, probably 60+ week territory. My kids are 4 and 7. I've been pretty pr
Work has been insane for 6 months. Layoffs, restructuring, we're all doing the job of 2 people. I bring that stress home and snap at my kids over nothing. Then I feel like garbage.
Been WFH for 2 years now. Can do school pickup, have lunch with my oldest, see my kids before they go to bed. Productivity is the same if not better. Now upper management is pushin
Been with this company 6 years and finally got the offer for a senior role I wanted. Problem is it's got about 30% travel, probably 2 weeks a month out of town. My kids are 4 and 6