Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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My daughter had her school recital at 2pm today. I told my team I was leaving and got out of the office by 130. Made it there and she was so happy to see me in the audience. But no
My daughter has her 3rd grade play Friday at 2pm. It's literally one of the biggest things happening in her world right now but I have back to back meetings that day. I know I coul
Been remote for 2 years and my kids have adjusted so well. Now company wants everyone back 3 days minimum. My oldest has soccer practice on Wednesdays and I'm the one who handles s
A lot of guys at my company only took 2-3 weeks which I get financially but man, those 12 weeks with my newborn were incredible. Got to handle all the overnight shifts so my wife c
Started a new role 6 months ago and the hours are brutal. Getting home at 7pm most nights, kids are already in bed, wife is exhausted from handling everything solo. I'm making good
Been working from home for about a year now and my boss just told us we need to come in 3 days a week starting next month. I'm legitimately upset about losing that time back. The c
Working hybrid and when I'm home the kids somehow know exactly when I'm on an important call. Last week my 5 year old started screaming about needing juice RIGHT NOW during a meeti
Getting real mixed feelings about going back to the office full time. Those 3 months with the baby were incredible and I actually learned how to change diapers without being terrif
Guys I'm furious. I took 3 months paternity leave after my second was born. Company said it was fine, just take the time. Come back and they've restructured my whole team. Now I'm
Been working from home for 2 years now and don't get me wrong, I love being here when the kids get home from school. But I'm finding it impossible to actually stop working. I'll be
Working full time, kids are in daycare, I feel like I'm missing everything. My oldest just learned to ride his bike without training wheels and I wasn't there. Wife says I'm being
So apparently my boss saw my willingness to 'stay local' as lack of ambition. I told him I'm not leaving my 2 year old 4 nights a week and he basically said that's the cost of movi
I'm only on day 3 back at the office and I'm already struggling. I keep checking my phone to see if my wife needs me. The meetings feel pointless when my newborn is at home. My bos
Been remote for 2 years now and my 4 year old just started preschool. I can actually do pickup, spend time with him after school, and my wife and I aren't completely destroyed by e
Been thinking about changing careers but I'm scared man. I make decent money now, good benefits, the job is stable even if it's boring. But I'm not fulfilled and my kids see me unh
Took 6 weeks off after our third was born. Going back to work this week and I'm honestly dreading it. Those 6 weeks were hard and exhausting but also incredible. Coming back to 3 w
Started working from home 3 months ago and honestly it's been a game changer. I get to see my kids at lunch, pick them up from school, be present. Yeah I work til 8pm sometimes to
My wife still works part-time. We've agreed that she can work 7-9am on weekdays. I am supposed to feed our two children (ages 3 and 6) breakfast and then be with them until 9 when
My son woke up with a fever today and daycare won't take him. I've got a presentation I'm supposed to lead at 2pm. My wife has back to back meetings she can't move. This is the stu
Been working from home for 2 years and it's been life changing. I save 90 minutes a day on commute, I'm home for my son's baseball games, and my stress levels are way down. My mana