Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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So my wife just got promoted to VP at her company. It's amazing, she's incredibly deserving, and the money is life-changing for us. But it also means she travels now. Like, every
Got offered a director role at my company in Austin. Would be a $30k bump and honestly great for my career. But it's 40% travel, and my wife and I are already stressed to the max.
My company just announced "flexible work arrangements" so I asked if I could do 7am-3pm instead of 9-5 so I could pick up my kids from school. My manager said "sure!" but now I'm g
So I've been working from home for 2 years now and it was great at first, but my son just turned 3 and started refusing daycare some days. My wife works retail so she can't always
For anyone struggling with the WFH + kids combo, I started hard time-blocking: 6-9am: Deep work only 9-12pm: Meetings/collaborative stuff 12-1pm: Lunch break (actually stepping aw
And honestly? Zero regrets. Last year I went to a conference in California and missed a similar event. She asked me about it when I got home and I could tell she was hurt even thou
I leave at 4:30pm every day to pick up my kids. It's in my employment agreement and everything - I don't work late or weekends to compensate. Not ideal hours but I deliver results.
Took the hardest W's today. Director position opened up in my department - would've been a 15% bump and "the next step" in my career. But it's 60% travel, lots of evenings, and my
My 4yo asks me every morning if I'm going to the airport today and I hate how his face drops when I say yes. I was away for 5 days last week and missed his soccer game. He told his
Got asked to go to Vegas for a 3-day conference next month. It's actually a good opportunity career-wise but my son is still super attached to me (and takes terrible bottles from m
That's it. That's the post. I muted my phone. It can wait til Monday.
Started tracking how I actually spend my time (work, with kids, alone time, household stuff) and it's eye-opening. Turns out I was massively underestimating how much time I spend "
My last straw was missing my 5yo's soccer game because of a 4pm meeting that could've been an email. Just rage-quit during the game when my wife texted me a photo. Told my boss I w
She went back to her job 5 months post-baby and honestly we underestimated how much this would shake things up. She's exhausted, I'm exhausted, baby is in daycare, and somehow the
So I got recruited for a role that explicitly caps hours at 40/week max, slightly lower pay than I make now, but fully remote. On paper it sounds perfect. But part of me is like...
Started freelance writing on the side about 8 months ago when I went down to 4 days/week at my job. Honestly? It's the best decision I made. I make maybe $800-1200/month which help
I work in construction, so some weeks I'm out the door at 5:30am and home at 6:30pm. My kids (4 and 7) are already fed by the time I get there. They're tired. I'm exhausted. We may
Seriously, is this normal or are we getting robbed? Looking at places for our 18mo and everything is $2k+ a month. We have two kids (3yo in pre-K), so we're looking at like $3,500/
Seriously. $2200/month for my 2-year-old in the DC area. That's more than my car payment, more than our mortgage payment almost, and it's literally the cheapest option near us. I'm
TL;DR: Convinced my boss to let me do 4 long days (10 hours) instead of 5 regular days so I can be home by 2pm on Wednesdays. Started last month and honestly it's been a game chang