Just want to recommend. If you work in tech/software and your company has flexible hours, actually USE them. Don't just assume you have to be in from 9-5. I shifted to 7am-3pm so I can pick my daughter up from school. Everyone wins. She gets picked up by her dad instead of going to after-care. I ge...
My 9yo has been playing travel ball this year and honestly? It's been a time investment I wasn't sure about. 6am practices, weekend tournaments 2 hours away. They just won their regional tournament. Kid was beaming. Pitched the final game. We stayed at a hotel, got crappy breakfast before heading h...
Our daughter will ONLY sleep on one of us. The second we try to transfer her to the bassinet she wakes up. I've tried everything - warming it first, waiting longer before transferring, all of it. Meanwhile my wife is getting zero actual sleep and I'm starting to think I caused this by letting her sl...
Why is pickup at our elementary school designed like we're boarding an airplane? 20 cars trying to fit in a space for 8. Got honked at yesterday for... literally just existing in the lane? And don't even get me started on the parents who wait until their kid actually comes out to pull forward. Anywa...
Got a cheap projector (like $80 from Amazon - VANKYO brand) and a white sheet pinned to the fence. Set up some blankets and pillows, popped popcorn, and my kids thought they were at an actual theater. We did this like 3 times now and it's become the whole neighborhood thing - other parents are askin...
I want to be the kind of dad who actually lands a good joke. Right now I'm mostly just improvising terrible puns that make my kids groan and my wife shake her head. Drop your best, most groan-worthy dad jokes below. I'm collecting material and I need your best ammo.
I swear my 7yo just wore these pants last week and now they're capris. I feel like I'm constantly buying new stuff. And don't even get me started on shoes - how are we spending $80 on sneakers that fit for like 6 months?? Is this just the cost of having kids or am I shopping in the wrong places? Som...
Shot an 89 at a local scramble this weekend. Not amazing but I've only been playing serious for about a year so I'm stoked. Joined a league too so now I've got something to work toward. The guys in my group were cool about it and didn't make fun of my swing too much haha.
My 12 year old asked me why he should believe in God if bad things happen to good people. I froze. I tried to explain theodicy but honestly I'm not sure I did a great job. How do you guys approach these conversations with your kids? I want to give them real answers, not just Sunday School responses.
Been seeing a therapist for 4 weeks now and ngl, the first session was awkward as hell. I spent 30 mins talking about my job instead of why I was actually there (anxiety attacks about being a "good enough" dad). Second session I brought notes. Third session I actually cried. Fourth session yesterday...
I thought we were prepared. We read books, took a class, had conversations about split duties. But the reality is my wife is still carrying most of the mental load even though I'm doing more physical stuff. I handle night feeds, I do laundry, I take the baby so she can shower, but somehow she's stil...
We usually do something nice but this year money's tight and I'm exhausted and I haven't even started thinking about it. Her birthday is literally in 2 weeks. I know this makes me a bad husband but I'm admitting it here first lol. What are some actually thoughtful gifts that don't cost a fortune? Sh...
Been lurking here for months and finally went to a local meeting last Tuesday. Ngl, was super nervous. Thought it'd be weird or too touchy-feely. It was... really good? Just talking to other dads about the stuff we don't talk about with our partners or friends. One guy mentioned he's on anxiety med...
She found a dad group that meets Thursday nights in Denver and keeps bringing it up. Part of me thinks it would help but also I'm terrified of sitting in a circle talking about my feelings with strangers. What if I cry? What if it's all just complaining? What if I don't belong because my problems ar...
Every time I go to the park or my kids' school I see these dads who seem so engaged and happy and put-together and I feel like I'm just... existing. Like, they're coaching Little League, they know all the other parents, they seem happy. Meanwhile I'm barely keeping my head above water with work, two...