My 9yo asked me why I'm always looking at my phone and I realized... he's right. I AM always looking at my phone. Work stuff, scrolling, whatever. And when I'm actually with him I'm not really *with* him, you know? Started a challenge where I put my phone in another room during his homework time and...
Started doing one night a month where my wife and I just... go out. No kids, no planning, no talking about logistics. Just us. Sounds dumb and simple but holy shit it made a difference. We were in a rough patch—both resentful, disconnected, stressed—and this one small thing helped reset us. Also gav...
Tried Coparently for 2 months and noped out. The UI is terrible, it's slow, and worst part - my ex figured out how to screenshot our messages and use them out of context in our mediation. Nothing illegal in what we discussed but she twisted the tone. Switched back to email (boring but logged automat...
Honest question: on days when I'm working from home, I let my 4 and 6 year old watch YouTube Kids for like an hour so I can actually focus on calls. I feel guilty about it but also like... isn't this just parenting in 2024? My mom would've put me in front of the TV all day without blinking. Am I bei...
We keep double-booking ourselves because we're using different systems (she's iCal, I'm Google). Need something that actually syncs and maybe lets us see each other's work availability too. We've tried Shared Google Calendar but it's not intuitive enough. Anyone found something that actually works?
Final Four picks? I've got Kansas, Duke, Alabama, and honestly no idea for the last spot lol. Usually watch with my oldest but he's more into anime these days so I'm flying solo this year. That's what happens when your kid turns 12 I guess. Anyone else losing their sports-watching buddies as the kid...
Looking for something moderate that won't completely destroy my 5yo's legs. We did Multnomah Falls last month and she surprised us, but I don't want to overdo it. Need to actually finish the hike without carrying a 40lb toddler the last mile lol. Something with water or views to keep her engaged? We...
Took my boy out to the lake last Saturday for his first real fishing trip. We didn't catch much but we just sat there talking about life and I realized how rare that is these days. He's 14 and usually got his nose in his phone. Something about being out on the water just opened him up. Felt like I w...
Wild question but I'm obsessed with data. Noticed that when *I* get bad sleep, my 8yo is somehow worse behaved the next day. Like it's contagious or something. Wondering if other dads have noticed similar patterns? Or am I just looking for patterns that aren't there lol
My 8yo just asked me flat out where babies come from. I was NOT prepared. I gave him a very technical, very clinical explanation about sperm and eggs and he just stared at me. Then asked if we could go get ice cream instead. My wife says I handled it fine but I feel like I overcomplicated it? How di...
My company is "hybrid" which means 3 days in office, 2 days remote. Sounds good in theory but it's actually a nightmare. I have to do daycare drop-off every morning, which means I'm rushing out of the house stressed. On office days I can't pick up early if needed. On remote days I'm still not really...
He means well but he's the type to want to take over and do things his way. My wife is stressed about it too. How do you set boundaries with parents without being an asshole? Do we just say no? Say yes but set rules? I don't want him there for the whole first month like my mom is suggesting.
Kids are 6, 8, and 10. Currently doing 1 hour on school days, 2 on weekends. But during summer break we're all kinda losing it. The older two want to play Fortnite with their friends and I don't know how much is reasonable. My wife thinks we should be stricter. What are you guys doing? Are you scree...
First kid due in 3 months, and I've been obsessing over the registry. Got: crib, bassinet, stroller, car seat, bottles, pump, high chair (for later), bunch of clothes. Am I missing something that will make the first 3 months actually survivable? Wife says I'm good but I keep feeling like there's som...
Currently using a shared Google calendar and texting, which is a mess. My ex and I get along okay but I'm tired of the back-and-forth about pickup times and expenses. Someone mentioned OurFamilyWizard - is it worth the subscription? Any other apps people actually use and like?