I thought we were prepared. We read books, took a class, had conversations about split duties. But the reality is my wife is still carrying most of the mental load even though I'm doing more physical stuff. I handle night feeds, I do laundry, I take the baby so she can shower, but somehow she's stil...
We usually do something nice but this year money's tight and I'm exhausted and I haven't even started thinking about it. Her birthday is literally in 2 weeks. I know this makes me a bad husband but I'm admitting it here first lol. What are some actually thoughtful gifts that don't cost a fortune? Sh...
Been lurking here for months and finally went to a local meeting last Tuesday. Ngl, was super nervous. Thought it'd be weird or too touchy-feely. It was... really good? Just talking to other dads about the stuff we don't talk about with our partners or friends. One guy mentioned he's on anxiety med...
She found a dad group that meets Thursday nights in Denver and keeps bringing it up. Part of me thinks it would help but also I'm terrified of sitting in a circle talking about my feelings with strangers. What if I cry? What if it's all just complaining? What if I don't belong because my problems ar...
Every time I go to the park or my kids' school I see these dads who seem so engaged and happy and put-together and I feel like I'm just... existing. Like, they're coaching Little League, they know all the other parents, they seem happy. Meanwhile I'm barely keeping my head above water with work, two...
Been a rough week. Just got the boys (3.5 and 2) to bed finally around 8:30pm after being on my own all day while wife was at a work thing. They were FERAL. The 3yo wouldn't listen to anything, the 2yo spilled an entire cup of milk on the kitchen floor right as I was sitting down for 5 mins. Just lo...
Nothing crazy but during the pandemic she barely wanted to be here. Now she's like "dad can I stay both weekends this month?" Obviously I checked with her mom first and it's fine. Just feels good that she actually wants to hang out with me. Small moment but these are the ones that matter, you know?
Does anyone else's 4-month-old eat like a normal human on some days and then become a ravenous beast the next day? Our son went through like 6 ounces yesterday but today he keeps turning away from the bottle after 2-3 ounces. My wife thinks he's sick but he seems fine otherwise. Growth spurt? Teethi...
Thinking about taking the fam (5, 8, and 11 year olds) out to Killbuck next month. We're in Columbus so it's like 90 min drive. Reviews seem mixed - some say it's gorgeous, others say it's crowded and the trails are boring for younger kids. Anyone done it with young kids? Which trails actually work ...
My 13yo daughter is absolutely glued to TikTok. I'm not the "ban all screens" type of dad but she's getting weird with it - staying up late, grades slipping slightly, asking for a Ring Light for her room. How are other people managing this without being total tyrants about it? Looking for actual str...
I'm going fishing in Lake Tahoe next month for just one night - something I used to do all the time before kids. Wife is totally supportive. But my anxiety is already running scenarios like "what if something happens to one of them" or "am I being selfish" or "they'll be fine without me for 24 hours...
We were 50/50 for almost 2 years and it's been working fine. But last month my ex apparently told her she had "the most space" at her house and now my daughter is saying she wants to stay there. She literally has the same bedroom at both houses and spends the same amount of time at each. I'm trying ...
Broccoli, carrots, peas, corn - all poison apparently. Last night he literally gagged at the sight of a green bean. Meanwhile my older two will eat pretty much anything. How is this my kid? I'm not even trying to force it anymore, just putting it on his plate and letting him decide. Anyone else have...
My son is 10 and half his friend group has their own phones. He's asking for one constantly. My gut says no, he's too young, but I'm also not trying to make him feel like the weird kid. My wife thinks 11 or 12 is more reasonable. What's the vibe out there? When did you guys get your kids phones and ...
My 11yo keeps saying all his friends are on Discord and TikTok and that he's literally the ONLY one who isn't. I know this isn't actually true but also... I get the anxiety. It IS where kids are socializing now. We compromised with Snapchat (which I don't love but seems slightly less algorithmic?) b...