Starting therapy - should I tell my ex?
I'm seeing a therapist to work through some stuff from the divorce and to be a better parent. My ex mentioned something casually about hoping I'd "get help" and now I'm wondering i
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Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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I'm seeing a therapist to work through some stuff from the divorce and to be a better parent. My ex mentioned something casually about hoping I'd "get help" and now I'm wondering i
My 7yo asked yesterday if Mommy and Daddy got divorced because of something he did. Absolutely gutted me. I told him it was 100% an adult thing, nothing to do with him, we both lov
Be honest lol. I'd say we follow ours like 85% - mostly because life happens and both of us are flexible when it benefits the kids. My ex was late picking up last Thursday because
My 13yo son has been refusing to come to my place for the past 3 weeks. He says he's "too busy" with school projects and friends but I think it's because my ex has been badmouthing
So my ex is seeing someone new (found out from my daughter mentioning him casually) and she hasn't told me anything about it. Tomorrow is my weekend and my kids already know this g
My 9yo son told me his mom lets him have screen time way later than we agreed, eats less healthy food, doesn't enforce homework time. I try to keep things consistent but at some po
Been fighting for this for 18 months. Family court, two lawyers, multiple evaluations. My ex fought me hard on it because she wanted child support. We just got the judge's order l
So my ex has been picking up our kids (7 and 9) whenever she feels like it, completely ignoring the Wednesday/Friday schedule we agreed on. Last week she grabbed them on a Tuesday
We switched to a 2-2-3 schedule last month (been doing 50/50 alternating weeks for 3 years) and I'm honestly not sure if it's better or just different. My 7yo seems less disoriente
My son turns into a completely different kid on handoff days. He's fine Monday-Wednesday with me, but Thursday mornings he's anxious, clingy, won't eat breakfast. I'm pretty sure h
The last month my boys (6 and 9) have been way more defiant and moody when they're with me. Talking back, not listening, general attitude stuff. They seem fine at their mom's house
I'm more hands-off, outdoorsy, let them make mistakes and learn. Their mom is structured, scheduled, worries about grades obsessively (they're in 2nd and 5th grade). The kids seem
After 18 months of legal back-and-forth, the judge ruled in my favor. I have the kids (12, 9, 7) full-time now with my ex having them every other weekend plus one weeknight. Honest
My 13yo came home last weekend and mentioned her mom told her I "don't care about spending money on her" because I won't pay for the $300 soccer camp. Like... I literally just paid
Posted this because I was dreading it SO HARD. Last year was a disaster with my ex showing up mad at my parents' place. This year I actually communicated a plan in ADVANCE (wild, I
Our current 2-2-3 rotation is NOT working for my sensitive kids (7 and 9). Too many transitions, they're anxious all the time about whose house they're at next. My ex is willing to
Wondering if it's worth paying for quarterly mediation sessions with a professional just to handle the ongoing stuff (schedule changes, new situations, etc.) instead of it all blow
Been dating someone seriously for 4 months. My kids are 6 and 9. Too early? My ex started dating like 2 months after we split and had her boyfriend around constantly which drove me
My 8yo came home yesterday with a message from mom: "Tell dad the tuition payment is due." Not a text. Not an email. Told through my child. Then yesterday he said "Mommy says you'
Been dating Sarah for about 8 months now. My 12yo daughter knows her, they get along okay, but nothing serious yet. School is doing a thing where parents come watch presentations.