Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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Ex lets our kids (9, 11) stay up til 10pm, eat whatever, no homework check-in. I'm more structured. When they come to me they're exhausted, can't focus, and honestly act out becaus
My ex lets the kids eat whatever they want, stay up till 11pm, and basically do whatever. When they come to me, my rules feel super strict by comparison even though I'm just trying
Long story short - ex got a job offer in Portland, I'm in Seattle, court ruled 50/50 but with logistics of midweek transitions. That's 3 hours driving each way. We're working on a
My daughter's turning 12 next month and her birthday falls on a Tuesday (my day). Her mom wants to throw a big party on Saturday instead but that's her weekend. We've done the 'spl
Got served yesterday. She's claiming I "prioritize work over parenting" because I had to reschedule a weekend last month (work emergency, paid for her to take them to an activity i
My 14yo has decided she "doesn't want to go to dad's" this weekend and my ex is just... letting her stay. Says I can't force a teenager. But we have a legal custody order. Do I hav
Six months into the new schedule and my kids are actually doing great. My 6yo's teacher said he's more focused in class, my 12yo's grades came up, and they seem less anxious about
this has become an issue and I'm not sure if I'm overthinking it. my ex started giving the kids small gifts on Friday when I pick them up (like books or toys). I feel like it's hab
Every Sunday when I pick up the boys (12 and 14) they're in the WORST moods. Sulky, short with me, don't want to do anything. I'm trying not to take it personally but it's like los
Christmas is hers this cycle. Easter is hers. I'm trying not to be bitter about it but ngl it sucks. We're supposed to alternate but life keeps happening and we usually end up doin
Been separated 8 months and finally got an apartment with enough space for both my boys (5 and 8). Last weekend was our first overnight together since I moved out. Ngl I was nervou
So my ex insists on Wednesdays and Saturdays for pickups, which sounds fine in theory. But my new job has mandatory Wednesday evening meetings, and my daughter's soccer is Saturday
Been about a month now and it's WORKING. We started letting him pack his own small backpack the night before so he feels more in control of the swap. Also I started picking him up
He's 11. When he doesn't get his way with either of us, he threatens to ask the judge to let him live with the other parent. Obviously he has no idea how that actually works, but i
My ex is way more strict about screen time, bedtimes, that kinda stuff. I'm more... relaxed about it. My kids have mentioned the difference obviously. I'm not trying to be the "fun
So I finally did the camping trip I've been planning for 3 months. My boys (5 and 8) caught their first fish, we made s'mores, and there were zero fights about screen time because
Switched from texting my ex constantly to using 2 House co-parenting app Seriously, this has been a game changer for reducing conflict. Everything goes through the app - schedule
Anyone using something besides OFW for scheduling/messaging? It's getting pricey and honestly the interface is clunky. Looking for something that tracks expenses, syncs calendars,
Our custody agreement includes the option for a "parenting coordinator" if we get stuck on decisions. We're having trouble agreeing on our daughter's extracurricular activities and
Been using it for 8 months now since things got rough with my ex's communication (she'd "forget" texts about pickup times). The app changed everything. It's all documented, she can