Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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Every other week when I pick up my daughter (11) from school, her mom's new bf is there in the driveway waiting with her. Like... that's not even his scheduled time?? I have Thursd
My ex unilaterally decided our 12-year-old is switching schools next year—different district, more competitive academically. She didn't ask me. Our custody agreement says joint cus
Who do we claim the kids on taxes? We split the year roughly 50/50 but not exactly. I know we need to figure this out with our accountant but wanted to know if anyone had a simple
Dating Sarah for 4 months now. My kids (6, 8) haven't met her. She's met my friends but not the kids obviously. She mentioned casually that it'd be cool to come to my son's soccer
My 6-year-old has gotten motion sickness on the 45-minute drive between houses. Pediatrician said half the issue is he's hungry/thirsty before we even leave. Looking for snack id
We decided last year that I'd do Thanksgiving even years and Christmas even years (so this year is hers). That made sense at the time. But my family is huge on Christmas gatherings
This gutted me. Apparently some kid at school said something dumb and it activated this worry he's been having. I've never blamed him, never fought in front of him, tried to keep t
Real talk: I do not like my ex. We have two kids together and we're "civil" but every interaction feels like I'm navigating a minefield. She's late to pickups constantly, cancels p
So I get the kids June 15-22, and she just texted saying she booked a beach trip for June 16-19 and asked if I "could maybe take them those days instead." Like no, that's literally
So our agreement says we alternate Christmas Eve/Day, I get this year. But my 6yo son is asking if Santa comes to both houses lol. My ex and I aren't exactly friendly but also not
Ex lets our kids (9, 11) stay up til 10pm, eat whatever, no homework check-in. I'm more structured. When they come to me they're exhausted, can't focus, and honestly act out becaus
My ex lets the kids eat whatever they want, stay up till 11pm, and basically do whatever. When they come to me, my rules feel super strict by comparison even though I'm just trying
Long story short - ex got a job offer in Portland, I'm in Seattle, court ruled 50/50 but with logistics of midweek transitions. That's 3 hours driving each way. We're working on a
My daughter's turning 12 next month and her birthday falls on a Tuesday (my day). Her mom wants to throw a big party on Saturday instead but that's her weekend. We've done the 'spl
Got served yesterday. She's claiming I "prioritize work over parenting" because I had to reschedule a weekend last month (work emergency, paid for her to take them to an activity i
My 14yo has decided she "doesn't want to go to dad's" this weekend and my ex is just... letting her stay. Says I can't force a teenager. But we have a legal custody order. Do I hav
Six months into the new schedule and my kids are actually doing great. My 6yo's teacher said he's more focused in class, my 12yo's grades came up, and they seem less anxious about
this has become an issue and I'm not sure if I'm overthinking it. my ex started giving the kids small gifts on Friday when I pick them up (like books or toys). I feel like it's hab
Every Sunday when I pick up the boys (12 and 14) they're in the WORST moods. Sulky, short with me, don't want to do anything. I'm trying not to take it personally but it's like los
Christmas is hers this cycle. Easter is hers. I'm trying not to be bitter about it but ngl it sucks. We're supposed to alternate but life keeps happening and we usually end up doin