Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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Every time I have to enforce a boundary (like, my rules at my house) my 8yo comes back and says 'mom says you're being mean.' Or 'mom said you don't actually want us here that much
Using both OurFamilyWizard and Talking Parents. My ex insists on OFW for "official" stuff but she responds way faster on TP. I'm spending too much time checking both. Anyone else j
do NOT recommend. waste of money. tried to get my ex to agree to adjusting pickup times for soccer and it turned into this whole thing. should've just used a mediator from the star
Like, "does she have a spelling test" or "what time is soccer" - things that I would know because SHE'S WITH ME. It's constant. And when I don't answer right away, she calls and le
Wanted to pop in with a win because this subreddit can be heavy sometimes. Been co-parenting my daughter (she's 5 now) for almost 3 years since the split. First year was ROUGH—my e
Currently 18 months post-split, starting to date someone seriously. My kids are 6 and 8. I know the advice is 'wait at least 2 years' but tbh I'm not sure that's realistic for me.
Honestly thought going from mostly my house to true 50/50 would be rough on my 6 and 11 year olds. But having a predictable schedule (alternating weeks) seems to have actually help
Our custody agreement says we "alternate major holidays" but doesn't specify what counts as major. Christmas was mine, she wants Thanksgiving. Fair enough. But then she's also clai
This is embarrassing but I feel like I spoil my kids more on my weekends. We go to nicer restaurants, I let them get stuff at stores, we do paid activities. My ex pointed out that
Everyone on the internet makes 50/50 sound amazing but honestly we're struggling. My ex moved 20 minutes further away, so pickup and dropoff is basically an hour round trip for me
Posting this because someone recommended it in another thread and I was skeptical. We set up a shared Google Calendar and literally just input appointments, pickups, school events,
We're currently texting about schedule stuff and it's a mess - no documentation, easy to forget who said what. She's resistant to OurFamilyWizard because of the cost. Are there any
My ex lets our kids (4, 7) eat cereal for dinner half the time and I'm out here meal prepping. She doesn't enforce bedtime and they come to me exhausted. I feel like I'm picking up
Quick question - we split up informally and just do week on/week off without anything on paper. It's worked fine for 2 years but people keep telling me I need to get it legalized.
Every Tuesday evening when mom picks up our 2yo he absolutely loses it. Crying, clinging, the whole thing. I feel terrible but I also don't know if I'm making it worse by comfortin
Found out through our 8yo that his mom's boyfriend is the new assistant coach for his baseball team. I have NOTHING against the guy - don't even know him - but like... maybe run so
My 11yo has been seeing someone for separation anxiety and the therapist recommended both parents attend some sessions. Makes sense, right? We told her we'd try. Except my ex strai
My daughter (13) told me her mom makes her do chores with no screen time privileges, homework comes before literally everything, really strict rules. At my house we're more relaxed
dating someone new for about 5 months now (I know, still pretty early). My kids are 6 and 10. When is it appropriate to have her meet them? Their mom got remarried pretty quick aft
Using our fingers to text back and forth about custody stuff has gotten old. Been reading good reviews about OurFamilyWizard and Coparently but they're pricey. Anyone actually use