Daycare costs are absolutely destroying us
Our infant care is $2,100/month for 3 days a week. THREE DAYS. I make decent money but I might as well be working for the daycare. We're looking at switching to a nanny share but t
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Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Our infant care is $2,100/month for 3 days a week. THREE DAYS. I make decent money but I might as well be working for the daycare. We're looking at switching to a nanny share but t
Our second kid is due in 6 weeks and I'm trying to figure out what to actually request. My company offers 12 weeks parental leave but I'm worried about optics if I take more than 4
Used to be I'd leave the office and that was it - work brain switched off. Now WFH 4 days/week and I literally can't turn it off. Having dinner with my family but mentally reviewin
Negotiated down to 4 ten-hour days starting next month. I'll lose about 8% pay but gain every Wednesday. My company was surprisingly cool about it—apparently they're trying to be m
My company just announced "flexible hours" which sounds great until you read the fine print. Have to be in office 10am-3pm every day for "collaboration." So it's just... shifted th
Left sales (high pressure, constant grind) to go into project management at a mid-size company. Lower stress, better hours, less commission stress. Takes pressure off our household
Took 6 weeks with my newborn (thanks to our company's decent policy). Going back Monday and I'm legit anxious about leaving my wife and son. Know it's normal but ugh, the guilt is
6 weeks approved (using up PTO + some unpaid time). My first real chunk of time at home since my youngest was born. Wife's going back after 12 weeks, so I'll have both kids for a f
So I've been WFH for about 8 months now and my wife just went back to work part-time. I'm supposed to be "watching" our 3-year-old while taking client calls. Yesterday I had a Zoom
We've been hybrid (2 days in, 3 home) for two years. Now upper management wants everyone back. My wife manages her own schedule so childcare could work, but like... why? Our team i
Not sponsored or anything, but been using Togetherly with my wife to just... coordinate everything. Dinners, pickups, doctor appointments, work deadlines, who's cooking, who has ba
So my company finally approved my request to WFH 3 days a week. Thought it'd be amazing - no commute, more time with the kids. Reality check: my 4yo keeps interrupting Zoom calls a
My company offers "flexible schedules" which apparently means they're flexible about when I work, not about HOW MUCH I work. So I can pick up my kid at 3pm, sure, but then I'm catc
Company approved it (!!) and I'm planning to start in March. But I'm nervous about a few things: Will I look bad career-wise when I come back? My industry isn't exactly family-fri
Baby #2 arrives in October and I'm taking the full 6 weeks my company offers. But honestly? I'm scared shitless about returning to work. With kid #1 (now 4), I went back after 2 we
My company is pushing everyone back to the office 3 days a week starting next month. I've been full remote for 2 years and honestly it's been great for being present after school p
Not gonna lie, used to be a frozen pizza guy. But with my 8yo and 6yo, I realized I was spending evenings cooking and not with them. Now Sundays: I batch cook. Chicken, rice, roas
Been freelancing/consulting for 3 years now. The flexibility is legit - I take my kids to school 4x/week, we eat lunch together some days, I can shift my schedule around doctor app
We're on waitlists at 6 daycares in the Seattle area. My wife's maternity leave ends in January and we have NOTHING locked in. The good places have waiting lists that are 18+ month
Had a conference in Denver last month, 3 days. No big deal, I've done tons of business travel. But this time I have a 4yo who was devastated when I left. My wife handled it fine, b