Anyone else doing the pickup/dropoff shuffle?
Mornings: me = dropoff guy. My commute starts later so I do 7:30am school run with my 2nd grader. Afternoons: wife does pickup because her job is flexible. It's working surprising
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Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Mornings: me = dropoff guy. My commute starts later so I do 7:30am school run with my 2nd grader. Afternoons: wife does pickup because her job is flexible. It's working surprising
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