Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Took 4 weeks with my newborn and it was the best and worst 4 weeks of my life. Now I'm back at work and my inbox is destroyed, I have 3 meetings already scheduled and my wife is ha
I can eat lunch with my kids, help with homework during my break, and be home when they get off the bus. Yeah I still work 8 hours but at least I'm in the same building. The transi
My daughter had her school play yesterday and I had to skip it for a client meeting. My wife recorded it but watching a video just isn't the same. She wasn't mad but I could tell s
They offered me a director role with a big raise but it requires being on site 2 days a week instead of full remote, plus occasional travel. My kids are 7 and 9. The money would be
Been home for 2 months with my second kid and honestly it's been incredible. Getting to drop my oldest at school, spend mornings with the newborn, make lunch for the family. Going
This has become my new normal and I hate it. By 7pm I'm done with the day mentally but then I have to put the kids down, help with homework, do bedtime routine, and by the time tha
My company went full remote last year and I honestly don't know how I'd go back to the office now. I save 2 hours a day commuting, can actually eat lunch with my kids, and if one o
I work from home 4 days a week and I thought it would be perfect. But honestly the lines between work and dad time have gotten so blurry. I'm in back to back meetings while they're
These last couple months have been incredible with my newborn and my oldest. I've done so much with them, been present for everything. Now I have to go back full time next week and
Had a rough day at the office and came home and yelled at my kids for something stupid. They didn't deserve that. My stress isn't their fault but I'm taking it out on them and I ha
I'm a software engineer and the expectations at my company are just unreasonable. I'm the only one bringing in a paycheck right now and I feel trapped. If I push back on hours they
I've been WFH for 2 years now and I gotta say it's been a game changer. I'm not gonna pretend like I'm working and parenting simultaneously perfectly because I'm absolutely not. Bu
My 4 year old is up at 5:45am no matter what time he goes to bed. I'm trying to get to the gym before work to stay sane but I'm either waking up at 4:30 to fit it in or I'm just sk
So the company actually came through and approved my request for 3 months when the baby comes in May. Everyone keeps congratulating me but honestly I'm freaking out. How am I suppo
Got the promotion I've been working toward for 3 years. More money, better title, but they want me on calls at 7am and the job isn't really flexible on the evenings anymore. I've g
Been remote for 2 years and I've actually been able to do school pickups and help out way more. Productivity is fine, maybe even better since I'm not commuting. Now corporate is do
He threw up at lunch and they needed pickup asap. I was in the middle of presenting to the VP and had to literally step out. Got him, took him home, came back but the damage was do
Took 4 weeks off when my second was born and it was amazing. Got back Monday and it's like I never left except now I'm checking the baby cam every 5 minutes and I can't focus on an
So I finally convinced my company to let me take the full 3 months when baby #2 arrives next month. Everyone keeps congratulating me but honestly I'm freaking out. I haven't been a
Got passed over for promotion again and pretty sure it's because I don't stay late or travel anymore. I requested flexible hours 2 years ago when my oldest started school and now I