Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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This is embarrassing to admit but I notice that when I get home from the office, my brain is still basically at work. My kids are talking to me and I'm nodding along while mentally
Been testing out both apps the past month. Calm seems better IMO—the courses are less hokey and I actually use them. Headspace feels more corporate. I do 10 minutes in my car after
So I've been working from home for 8 months now and my daughter is 3. My wife goes back to work next month and we're gonna try keeping her home with me 3 days a week to save on day
Not trying to be dramatic but seriously. My wife was completely burned out, I was working 60-hour weeks, we hadn't had a real conversation in months. I had some PTO saved up and ju
Sitting in a 4pm meeting today that could've been a Slack message. Everyone's just chilling, no rush. Meanwhile I'm watching the clock because I'm supposed to get the kids and my m
Looking into it as an option. Seems like it could be cheaper than our daycare and maybe more flexible? But also kind of nervous about the whole thing. You're basically hiring a ran
Got transferred to our Boston office last month and the 90-minute commute each way is absolutely wrecking us. I leave at 7am, don't get home til 6:15pm, kids are already at that we
My wife wants to stay home. We have a 2yo and she's been WFH but wants to fully step back. Sounds amazing - less childcare costs, less stress, one person managing the household. B
After about a year of chaos, we finally cracked it. Clothes picked the night before, backpacks packed, breakfast is just cereal (not trying anymore), I shower Sunday night instead
OK so I started a dropshipping thing about 8 months ago thinking I'd make some extra cash. It's actually doing OK - maybe $1,200/month profit right now. But guys... I'm spending 1
My company is "hybrid" which means 3 days in office, 2 days remote. Sounds good in theory but it's actually a nightmare. I have to do daycare drop-off every morning, which means I'
Running this thing in the evenings/weekends for about 4 months now. It's basically nothing money-wise but it's actually working? Selling niche coffee gear to people online. Not d
Anyone in the PNW? We got a quote from a center near Ballard - $2,850/month for our 18mo old. TWO THOUSAND EIGHT HUNDRED AND FIFTY DOLLARS. My wife makes good money but like... thi
I'm drowning. 50hr weeks, two kids, wife works 40hrs. We're both exhausted. I'm doing the "stress relief" tips (meditation, exercise) but honestly those feel like band-aids on a bu
Real question: are you just... doing this forever? Working enough to not be broke, trying to be a good dad, repeat? Or does anyone have an actual plan to get out? I'm 38, my kids a
I make decent money ($85k) but my kids are 5 and 8 and I feel like I'm missing everything. They're in school now so at least mornings are easier, but I'm working 50+ hour weeks and
I make $75k gross. After taxes ($15k), my wife's full-time daycare costs ($21k), and commuting/lunch out ($4k), my actual take-home is... basically nothing. So technically I work f
Took a pay cut (about 15%) but been doing this for 3 months now and wanted to share in case it helps someone. I negotiated Fridays off and honestly the extra day with my kids has c
My company offered 2 weeks paid, which I realize now is pathetic compared to some places, but I took it when our daughter was born in July. Spent the second week just doing baby st
Got promoted last month to manage a small team, fully remote. On paper this is the best scenario - I'm home, I can be with my kids, no commute. But it turns out managing people is