Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Rough day at the office today. Client blew up a deal last minute, had to scramble all afternoon. Get home and my 4 year old wants to play and my wife needs to talk about her day an
Company went hybrid and I negotiated to work from home three days a week. Not gonna lie, being able to eat lunch with my kids and actually be present for the little stuff has been
Been back at work for two weeks after taking 6 weeks off and it's way harder than I expected. I miss my daughter like crazy and I keep checking the baby cam at my desk which my bos
Found out today that the promotion I was gunning for went to someone who's been here less time than me. My boss said I'm a great performer but I don't have the 'leadership visibili
Before kids I was crushing it, always first one in last one out, took on every big project. Now with three kids and my wife's job being more flexible than mine, I'm the one doing m
Been working from home for 3 years now and honestly it's been great for being present with the kids. But lately my boss keeps slack messaging me at 7pm asking for updates on projec
Took 4 weeks off when my second was born and coming back to the office today. Everything changed while I was gone, new systems, new projects, different team structure. Plus I'm run
Don't get me wrong, I love my family. But work is where I feel competent. At home with the kids it's just chaos and endless demands and I feel like I'm failing at everything. At le
Anyone else struggle with the home office setup? I'm in the spare bedroom and my kids know I'm here so they think I'm available 24/7. Had a client call yesterday and my 4yo was lit
Got offered a big promotion at work. More money, better title, but I'd be traveling 2-3 days a week again. Before the kids I would've jumped on this immediately. Now I'm terrified.
Took 6 weeks off when my second was born and honestly it was the best time of my life. Back at work now for 2 months and I hate it. I miss my family like crazy. Used to love my job
Second kid coming in 2 months and I'm trying to figure out if I should ask my company about doing 4 tens instead of 5 eights. Trying not to tank my career but also don't want to mi
Been working from home for 2 years now and it's still a struggle. My kids think that because I'm home I'm available to play at 2pm. Had to literally lock my office door today so my
Just finishing up my 8 weeks and I gotta say this time has been everything. Actually saw my newborn's personality develop instead of just photos from daycare. But now I'm dreading
Been at my company 5 years and they're pretty old school about office time but I've got a 3 year old at home and my wife just went back to full time. Daycare costs are killing us a
The promotion went to someone without kids and I can't help but think it's because I sometimes leave at 5 to pick up my daughter or take a mental health day when stuff is rough at
Man those two weeks went so fast. Got some good bonding time with the newborn but it's not nearly enough time to really help my wife get back on her feet. She's still pretty sore a
I'm constantly checking my phone during dinner or when I'm supposed to be playing with the kids. My boss expects responses to emails at 7pm on a Tuesday and it's turning me into a
We crunched the numbers and could technically live on my wife's salary alone if I went to 3 days a week in the office. I'd pick up the kids from school, help with homework, be less
Man, being home with my newborn was incredible even though I was exhausted 24/7. Now I'm back at the office and my boss has me on 3 different projects. My wife texts me photos of o