Been making sure he knows to open doors for people, say yes sir and no sir, shake hands firm but not crushing. Want him to understand that being a man means taking care of the people around you and showing respect. My old man taught me this way and I'm doing the same with my boy. Anyone else taking ...
My boss asked me to cut corners on a project to save money and it would've hurt customers. I told him no and explained why it was wrong. Almost cost me that promotion but I couldn't live with myself doing it that way. A man's word and his integrity are all he really has. Anyone else had to make a to...
My 8yo mentioned that mom's new boyfriend yelled at him for spilling milk and that made him scared. Then later my daughter said they're eating TV dinners every night now instead of actual meals. I don't want to be that guy who's always assuming the worst, but as a dad I'm concerned. How do you handl...
We're trying to raise our kids (9, 12, 14) to be generous and understand that God provides. We have them tithe 10% of their allowance and we talk about giving to others. But I feel like sometimes it comes across preachy. My oldest is starting to see through what feels like a lesson and is less recep...
My wife has been spending 2-3 nights a week at book club and the last few times she comes home just full of complaints about other people in our church. She's repeating stories that were told in confidence and honestly it's making me uncomfortable. I brought it up gently but she got defensive. I don...
My father was cold, distant, always working. I swore I'd be different and I really tried, but I realized recently I was repeating a lot of his patterns. Started unpacking that with a therapist and finally understanding why I default to being emotionally unavailable. Been working on being vulnerable ...
Just had to sit down with my teenager about some poor choices he was making. It would've been easier to let it slide but that's not how you raise a man. I told him straight up what disappointed me and why, listened to his side, and explained what I expected going forward. No yelling, no lecturing fo...
My dad wore a hat every single day of his life. Fedora to work, cap on weekends, always had something on his head. People ask me why I do the same thing in 2024 and honestly it's not about fashion. It's about standards. It's about showing up to the world put together and intentional. My kids see tha...
Been remote for 2 months now and honestly I'm not looking back. I can take my lunch break and have a proper meal with my kids instead of scarfing something down at my desk. Yeah some days it's tough separating work mode from dad mode but the trade off of getting my kids's morning wave goodbye and be...
I work 50+ hours most weeks and I hate the days I miss my kids's activities. Today was my daughter's soccer game and I had a critical meeting. Made it through the first half but man it stings. My wife says I need to stop being so hard on myself but it's tough. I want to provide for my family AND be ...
Started this 3 months ago and I'm shocked how much better family dinner is. No scrolling, no checking work emails, just talking. At first everyone was grumpy about it but now my 13 year old actually shares stuff about his day. We leave phones in a basket by the door during dinner. Takes 30 minutes a...
Going through a divorce right now and we haven't told the kids yet (8 and 11). My ex and I actually get along okay and we want to do this right. We're planning to tell them together on Sunday. I'm terrified. Any advice on how to approach this? What do we say about custody and the schedule? I don't w...
Guys I need to be real here. I'm trying to teach my kids about honesty and integrity but this week I called in sick to work when I just wanted a mental health day. My 8 year old caught me in the lie and asked why it was okay for me to lie but not him. Hit me like a ton of bricks. How do you guys han...
Biggest wake up call was my son asking me why I didn't come to his soccer game. I MISSED it because of a meeting that didn't even matter in the end. That was 18 months ago. Changed my whole perspective. Started saying no to stuff, delegating more, leaving work at work. Yeah I make less money now but...
Two years sober this month. Nobody thinks I'm cool anymore but I don't care. I can remember my kids's birthdays now, I remember conversations with my wife instead of blacking out half the week. The thing I miss least is the morning anxiety wondering what I said or did the night before. What I miss m...