Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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My boys are 7 and 9. I see them 40% of the time per custody agreement and I HATE it. Every single drop-off I feel like I'm abandoning them even though logically I know I'm not. Wor
It happened yesterday during dinner. She asked point blank. I froze for a second, then just told her the truth - that sometimes parents love their kids a lot but can't live togethe
Currently using OurFamilyWizard but honestly the interface is kind of clunky and my ex keeps missing messages. Been looking at alternatives. Anyone use Custody X Change or 2houses?
Been using the free version for a few months. My ex and I communicate mostly through it instead of texting now and it's definitely reduced the amount of petty arguments. Thinking a
I'm trying something different this year - instead of texting about logistics, I'm using a shared Google Calendar and only texting for actual emergencies. It's been 3 weeks and alr
Considering modifying our custody agreement because work relocation is a possibility next year. Want to get ahead of it before anything's final. Do you need a lawyer for modificati
So every Thursday is pickup day and I started something new: we go to the same coffee shop, kid picks out a snack, we sit for 15 mins and talk about the week before going to mom's.
My ex recently got really into positive parenting books and wants to change our whole discipline approach. Like, no yelling, time-ins instead of timeouts, 'natural consequences,' w
My ex lets the kids stay up til 10pm on school nights, no screen time limits, snacks whenever. My house is more structured - 8:30 bedtime, screen time ends at 7, snacks after dinne
Our schedule has the kids switch on Tuesday mornings before school. Sounds simple except Tuesday mornings are CHAOS. One week I'm doing breakfast/packing/getting to mom's house on
Is everyone doing fri-sun or does anyone do sat-sun? Curious about what the actual standard is or if it just varies by custody agreement. My lawyer mentioned I could push for fri-m
Been doing 2-2-5-5 with my kids (ages 4 and 8) for about 6 months now and it's honestly working way better than the standard every-other-weekend thing we tried first. Less transiti
Posted here about a year ago asking if I should explain divorce stuff to my kids or just keep it simple. Decided at ages 9 and 11 they deserved real talk (age-appropriate). Told th
I had my 7 and 9 year old last weekend and they came back saying 'mom said we could go to Disneyland but we can only go during her weeks so you won't get to see it.' Like... that's
This happened again. I pick up my 9yo on Sunday and apparently she's now not allowed to eat anything with food coloring bc his ex's new husband is "holistic" or whatever. So no Gat
Every time my boys (9 and 11) come back from their mom's, the first 2 hours are chaos. Attitude problems, acting out, not listening. I think they're adjusting to different rules/ex
So my ex keeps texting me like 30 mins before my custody swap on Fridays saying she needs to swap days or wants to pick up my 7yo early. It's messing with my work schedule and hone
So my ex is asking me to move my Thursday evening pickups to Wednesdays because she's got a new job that requires her to work late Thursdays. On paper this seems like a reasonable
Been dating someone for 8 months and we're getting serious. My kids are 7 and 12. I'm trying to figure out when/how to introduce her without it being weird or my ex losing her mind
Monday and Friday mornings are absolute chaos at my house. The kids get SO moody the day before they leave or the day after they arrive. My 8yo actually throws up sometimes because