Am I the only one who dreads handoff days?
Like, I love seeing my kids but the actual handoff is always awkward/tense. We usually do it at a parking lot near the school. Sometimes my ex is mad about something. Sometimes the
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Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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Like, I love seeing my kids but the actual handoff is always awkward/tense. We usually do it at a parking lot near the school. Sometimes my ex is mad about something. Sometimes the
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