Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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Got an opportunity in Austin that I can't pass up. Currently have 50/50 with my kids (ages 8 and 11) in Dallas. My ex is NOT happy and is threatening to fight this in court. I don'
Small win here - been working with a child therapist on communication and yesterday my 9yo and 11yo actually told me what's been bothering them about switching houses. Turns out th
lol everyone's talking about OurFamilyWizard and CoParently but honestly I just use a shared Google Sheet with my ex. We both have edit access, I color code who has the kids each d
Been using it for 8 months now. Pros: organized, keeps records of everything, the expense splitting feature actually works, no more "I paid for the field trip!" arguments. Cons: co
Been using Custody X for like 2 years to coordinate with my ex and it's been solid. Last 3 days it won't sync between our phones. Spent an hour on their support chat. Just curious
It's SEPTEMBER and my ex is already asking about Christmas plans. We've done the split for 3 years but apparently last year when I had the kids Christmas eve and she had Christmas
My rule: no screens on school nights, limited on weekends. Their mom: basically lets them watch whatever. My 11yo is constantly asking why my rules are "so strict" and says all his
He asked this out of nowhere last week. I think he picked up on it from friends or something because his mom has been dating someone for like 6 months. I don't want to make it weir
So Christmas is on a Wednesday this year and our CO has a strict alternating holiday schedule. She gets Thanksgiving (which is Thursday) and that means Christmas morning falls on m
Reading a bunch of posts here about people being really strict about consistency. But honestly? My kids have different bedtimes, different chore expectations, different screen time
Every time I have to enforce a boundary (like, my rules at my house) my 8yo comes back and says 'mom says you're being mean.' Or 'mom said you don't actually want us here that much
Using both OurFamilyWizard and Talking Parents. My ex insists on OFW for "official" stuff but she responds way faster on TP. I'm spending too much time checking both. Anyone else j
do NOT recommend. waste of money. tried to get my ex to agree to adjusting pickup times for soccer and it turned into this whole thing. should've just used a mediator from the star
Like, "does she have a spelling test" or "what time is soccer" - things that I would know because SHE'S WITH ME. It's constant. And when I don't answer right away, she calls and le
Wanted to pop in with a win because this subreddit can be heavy sometimes. Been co-parenting my daughter (she's 5 now) for almost 3 years since the split. First year was ROUGH—my e
Currently 18 months post-split, starting to date someone seriously. My kids are 6 and 8. I know the advice is 'wait at least 2 years' but tbh I'm not sure that's realistic for me.
Honestly thought going from mostly my house to true 50/50 would be rough on my 6 and 11 year olds. But having a predictable schedule (alternating weeks) seems to have actually help
Our custody agreement says we "alternate major holidays" but doesn't specify what counts as major. Christmas was mine, she wants Thanksgiving. Fair enough. But then she's also clai
This is embarrassing but I feel like I spoil my kids more on my weekends. We go to nicer restaurants, I let them get stuff at stores, we do paid activities. My ex pointed out that
Everyone on the internet makes 50/50 sound amazing but honestly we're struggling. My ex moved 20 minutes further away, so pickup and dropoff is basically an hour round trip for me