Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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We agreed loosely that ex gets Thanksgiving, I get Christmas, but never put specifics in writing (huge mistake, I know). Now she's asking about Christmas Eve (when kids will open p
My ex and I finally agreed on switching from 5/2 to 50/50 starting next month. We're both nervous about how to tell the kids (7, 10, 13) without making it seem like a huge deal but
So I implemented that Talking Parents app I mentioned a few weeks ago. My ex's first message was literally 3 paragraphs about how I need to enforce better bedtime routines. I respo
Do you guys pack your kids' stuff or does the other parent? Who's responsible for what? We haven't really nailed down a system and it's becoming a thing.
So I switched from Google Calendar to Homebase (the app, not the furniture store lol) for coordinating with my ex and it's actually been solid. Both our phones sync the calendar in
Quick backstory: My kids are now 12 and 14. Our custody agreement from way back said EOW and alternating weeks in summer. But my oldest wants to do clubs at school, my youngest has
Just wanted to share something that worked for us. Instead of just springing my new girlfriend on my kids (8, 11), I told them first that I was seeing someone and asked how they'd
Every single time I drop them back at their mom's house, they're amazing that whole evening and next morning. But by day 2, they act like monsters. Full meltdowns over nothing, rud
I messed up. My girlfriend moved in with me after like 4 months of dating and now my kids are confused about boundaries and relationships. My 7yo keeps asking why she sleeps in my
Update: We switched to Google Family Calendar last month and it's genuinely made everything easier. No more "wait, do I pick up Thursday or Friday?" texts. She can add dentist appo
Looking for something that's actually durable and not going to get lost. My 6yo has gone through like 5 lunchboxes in the last year because they're just getting left at school/in c
She lets the kids stay up til 10pm on school nights and eat cereal for lunch. CEREAL FOR LUNCH. Then Monday morning rolls around and they're absolute demons because they're sleep d
My 8yo gets genuinely stressed on days she switches between houses. Won't eat much, gets clingy, complains about stomach aches. Ex says she's the same way at her place but I don't
Been trying different apps to manage custody stuff and I'm curious what everyone actually uses. 2 Good (used for 8 months): Shared calendar Photo gallery Expense splitting Actuall
Fridays are rough. My 4yo cries when I pick her up from her mom's every single time, like I'm kidnapping her. Then Sunday evening when I have to take her back she's clingy and sad.
Ok so the CO says no overnight guests while kids are present. My ex is clearly having someone sleep over at her house on "my" days with the kids (our 10yo daughter told me). I don'
Quick win: We finally got through mediation and the new 50/50 schedule starts next month. Monday-Wednesday with me, Thursday-Sunday with mom, alternating holidays. Took forever and
First transition day with my kids after the separation was finalized last month. Got them yesterday, dropped them off this morning, and I'm sitting in my apartment feeling complete
My 11-year-old randomly asked me this last night while I was making dinner. I wasn't expecting it. I said no (which is true - I'm not angry, more just... done with her). But now I'
We're supposed to alternate Thanksgiving but my parents are having a huge family thing this year (first time in 5 years because my dad was sick). I have the kids Thanksgiving 2024