Communication through the kids
My ex keeps using our 10yo as a messenger. Like she'll tell him to tell me that child support is late, or that he needs new shoes. I've told her to text me directly but she acts li
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Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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My ex keeps using our 10yo as a messenger. Like she'll tell him to tell me that child support is late, or that he needs new shoes. I've told her to text me directly but she acts li
This is the third time in two months she's asked to swap weekends at the last second. I had plans with the kids this Saturday and she texts me Friday asking if she can take them in
After 18 months of back and forth with lawyers, we finally got it done. 50/50 custody, alternating weeks. It cost me like 15k but at least now we both know where we stand and the k
My ex and I don't get along and she gets defensive about everything I bring up regarding the kids. Even just asking about medical appointments turns into an argument. I've tried be
My 14 year old has been struggling with depression and our split between two houses is making it worse I think. She doesn't want to go to her mom's house some weeks and it creates
My ex keeps using our 6 year old to relay messages to me like pick up at 5 instead of 5:30 or remember his soccer gear. The kid gets confused and anxious. I've asked her to text me
My 8 year old came back from her moms and said that his mom said I quote left because I didn't love them enough. I'm furious. I have them 50/50 and I bust my ass to be there. The c
Been with my ex for 3 years post-divorce and things are pretty cordial. My new job wants me to start earlier on Mondays and Wednesdays which are my pickup days. How do I bring this
She wants to move for her boyfriend's job and wants to take the kids. Our order says we need to agree on anything over 50 miles. I obviously don't agree. She's saying it's not fair
My ex is refusing to stick to our agreed schedule because she wants to take our daughter to her new boyfriend's family vacation next month. It's my planned week. I offered to move
My 8 year old came back from his mom's house saying I 'don't care about him' because I won't buy him an iPad. She apparently told him that I have plenty of money but don't want to
Things with my ex have been rocky and we keep arguing over text. A friend mentioned there are apps specifically designed for co-parenting to keep things professional. Does anyone h
So my ex has been picking up our son on Friday at 6pm for the past month but now she's saying she can only do 7pm because of work. We have a court order that says 6pm. She keeps sa
She's 12 and told her mom she'd rather stay with her. Didn't even talk to me about it. My ex texted me about it instead of us sitting down together. I feel blindsided. We have a go
After 8 months of back and forth with lawyers, we finally got it done. I have the kids Wed-Fri and alternate weekends. My ex and I sat down without the lawyers for once and honestl
My ex and I agreed to switch from 50/50 to her having more weekdays since my job got crazy. I'm worried the kids will think I'm not trying to see them as much. How do you explain t
I need to confirm if I'm picking up the kids Thursday or Friday and she's been ghosting me for 2 days. This happens constantly. Do I just show up Thursday? I don't want to mess up
My daughter asked if she could stay with me more often and I told her to talk to her mom. Don't want to be the bad guy or the good guy you know. It's a tricky spot. Ex is a good mo
My ex keeps threatening to limit my time with them if I don't pay extra for school stuff. We have a court ordered agreement but she pulls this manipulation tactic constantly. My la
Every transition is awkward. My 5 year old cried a little when I left which broke my heart. I know it's normal but man it doesn't get easier. Their mom and I text every few hours a