Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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Everyone on the internet makes 50/50 sound amazing but honestly we're struggling. My ex moved 20 minutes further away, so pickup and dropoff is basically an hour round trip for me
Posting this because someone recommended it in another thread and I was skeptical. We set up a shared Google Calendar and literally just input appointments, pickups, school events,
We're currently texting about schedule stuff and it's a mess - no documentation, easy to forget who said what. She's resistant to OurFamilyWizard because of the cost. Are there any
My ex lets our kids (4, 7) eat cereal for dinner half the time and I'm out here meal prepping. She doesn't enforce bedtime and they come to me exhausted. I feel like I'm picking up
Quick question - we split up informally and just do week on/week off without anything on paper. It's worked fine for 2 years but people keep telling me I need to get it legalized.
Every Tuesday evening when mom picks up our 2yo he absolutely loses it. Crying, clinging, the whole thing. I feel terrible but I also don't know if I'm making it worse by comfortin
Found out through our 8yo that his mom's boyfriend is the new assistant coach for his baseball team. I have NOTHING against the guy - don't even know him - but like... maybe run so
My 11yo has been seeing someone for separation anxiety and the therapist recommended both parents attend some sessions. Makes sense, right? We told her we'd try. Except my ex strai
My daughter (13) told me her mom makes her do chores with no screen time privileges, homework comes before literally everything, really strict rules. At my house we're more relaxed
dating someone new for about 5 months now (I know, still pretty early). My kids are 6 and 10. When is it appropriate to have her meet them? Their mom got remarried pretty quick aft
Using our fingers to text back and forth about custody stuff has gotten old. Been reading good reviews about OurFamilyWizard and Coparently but they're pricey. Anyone actually use
Not even a heads up text. Just dropped him off and I'm combing nits out of his hair that night. I had to treat the whole house, his stuffed animals, everything. When I texted her a
Nothing crazy but during the pandemic she barely wanted to be here. Now she's like "dad can I stay both weekends this month?" Obviously I checked with her mom first and it's fine.
Coming up on our first holiday season split and we're already butting heads. She wants Thanksgiving day, I want Christmas day. We both want New Year's. Three kids (ages 6, 10, 14).
I spent like 3 months trying to get my ex to use a co-parenting app. She kept saying it was "unnecessary" and that we could just text. Then we had a huge miscommunication about who
My ex met my girlfriend briefly at a school pickup last month (she was just there, wasn't weird) and suddenly ex's attitude shifted. She's been way more flexible about schedule swa
My ex lets our 10yo daughter stay up until 10pm on school nights, have snacks whenever she wants, and basically zero chores. At my place she has an 8:30 bedtime, structured meal ti
Had to pick up my daughter early from my ex's house because she spiked a 103 fever. Instead of the usual awkward dynamic, we just... problem-solved together. Got her to urgent care
My ex is like... she wants to discuss EVERYTHING via family meetings now. Kid needs new shoes? Family meeting. Summer camp options? Family meeting. I just want to text 'hey I'm buy
My 4yo has had like 3 accidents this week on transition days (Mon mornings when I pick him up from mom's place). Otherwise he's dry. Is this just stress from switching houses or sh