Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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This is my second week dealing with my ex constantly changing pickup times. She'll text me at 4pm saying she needs to pick up our kids at 3:30 instead of 6. I work construction so
Just wanted to post something positive here since this forum is usually full of conflict stories. My ex and I have been doing 50/50 for 18 months now and honestly it's been one of
My wife and I finally agreed on terms and we're signing papers next week. We have two kids, ages 8 and 5. We want to tell them together this weekend but I'm honestly terrified. I d
My kids started doing sports at times that overlap with my custody days. Their mom scheduled soccer without asking me first and now there's conflicts. The custody agreement doesn't
My 7yo mentioned that mom said I'm 'irresponsible' because I was 10 minutes late picking him up last week. I've got him 50% of the time and I'm really involved but one delay and no
Got my new child support determination and it went up even though my custody time increased. My ex makes more money than me but somehow I'm still paying more. Has anyone dealt with
Going from 50/50 to every other weekend and one weeknight. The lawyer said it was a fair arrangement but it doesn't feel fair. I keep running through the math in my head trying to
My ex is way more strict than I am. Bedtimes are earlier at her place, less screen time, stricter rules on junk food. My kids were complaining that it's not fair. I don't want to u
This is the third time in two weeks. I had to leave work early yesterday because she texted me at 3pm that she needed me to pick up my daughter at 4 instead of 6. I get that life h
So my ex has been dating this guy for like 3 months and he's apparently at her place when the kids are there. I don't really know him and my oldest mentioned he was there during th
We're going through with it. It's final next month. The kids are 4 and 7 and my wife and I keep going back and forth on how and when to tell them. I want to be honest but not scare
Every time I try to talk to my ex about the kids she gets defensive or brings up stuff from the past. I try to keep things neutral and just focus on what's best for them but it alw
I have my kids every other weekend and one night a week. That sounds okay on paper but I'm missing a lot of their stuff. School plays, soccer games, dentist appointments. The mom h
Just wanted to share because I see a lot of people struggling with communication like I was. Got OurFamilyWizard last month after things got really tense with my ex. Literally chan
My 8 year old wants to do travel baseball this summer and it's going to be expensive - probably 2k between fees, equipment, and tournaments. We split custody 50/50 and I make sligh
This is driving me crazy. We agreed on Tuesday and Thursday pickups at 6pm, but my ex shows up whenever she feels like it. Last week she was 45 minutes late on a Tuesday and the ki
My ex went back to school and her income dropped, so she's asking me to reduce child support. I'm not trying to be difficult but I've had increased expenses too. My lawyer says we
After 18 months of battling it out in court, the judge awarded me 50/50 custody. I'm not gonna lie, it feels amazing. My kids get to see me regularly now and my ex and I are starti
Last night when I took my 7 and 9 year old back to their mom's place, my youngest had a meltdown. He was crying saying he didn't want to go. It broke my heart. I know this is tough
This is driving me crazy. We agreed on alternating weekends but she's constantly asking me to swap days last minute or keep the kids longer. When I try to do something with my sche