Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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We're supposed to alternate Thanksgiving but my parents are having a huge family thing this year (first time in 5 years because my dad was sick). I have the kids Thanksgiving 2024
I'm pretty permissive - my kids love being at my place because there's fewer rules. Their mom is strict (bedtimes, screens, etc). I KNOW this is a problem. My 12yo especially is st
Christmas is 4 months away and my ex is already making demands about having the kids from Dec 24-26 when the agreement says I get them the 25th. She's claiming "it's traditional" e
Currently doing pickups at a Panera but it's getting awkward. Looking for somewhere neutral that's not weird for the kids. Someone recommend a park in Denver with a parking lot nea
So my company is relocating our office closer to my house (finally some good news) but it means I need to adjust pickup times on my custody weeks. I'm asking to do 4:15 instead of
Real talk: I got remarried, we have a house with a yard, my new stepdaughter is amazing with my kids, and my life is honestly pretty good right now. Meanwhile my ex is still in the
Remember me? Posted a few months back about how every pickup was a battle - kids crying, mom being cold, general tension. Started doing transition differently. Instead of picking t
Okay, I was skeptical when my therapist suggested it but I'm a believer now. Having all communication with my ex in one place instead of scattered texts has been a GAME CHANGER. No
After 2 years of arguing about Christmas, we finally agreed on alternating years with overnights, and whoever doesn't have Christmas Day gets New Years Eve into the 1st. My kids ar
just curious if this is weird lol. We use Venmo to split groceries and activities. Works way better than the spreadsheet thing we tried before. Instant record, less arguments about
When we were together, I was the one implementing bedtimes, screen time limits, homework supervision - basically everything. Now that we're split, she's suddenly the 'fun parent' w
My oldest (15) doesn't want to see me anymore. Says "mom says you were mean to her" and now refuses to come to my house. Her mom isn't answering calls about it, just keeps saying "
My ex has a habit of texting me at like 11pm asking if I can switch weekends because something came up. For 2 years I've been saying yes because I didn't want to be "that guy." Las
So my ex has been trading weekends with me constantly because of her new boyfriend. I get that people have lives, but I've turned down plans with my girlfriend multiple times to st
My son's elementary school has both our numbers on file but every single time something happens—illness, behavioral thing, whatever—they call his mom first. I'm the primary contact
Quick question: what counts as "reasonable notice" for schedule changes? Mine says 48 hours but my ex keeps texting me at 9pm asking if she can have the kids an extra day starting
Had my 7yo and 9yo for Thanksgiving for the first time since the split. Was honestly nervous about it - didn't want them sad, didn't want to feel like a failure, the whole thing. B
This is becoming a pattern and I'm losing it. My ex asks to swap weekends literally the day before, and when I say no bc I already made plans with my kids, she acts like I'm being
This happened last weekend and I'm still processing it. Picked up Jake from school on Friday and he mentioned that when his mom drops him off at my place, he sees her crying in the
My ex wants to switch from 50/50 to her having the kids (ages 7 and 10) for the full summer because she's doing this camp director thing. I had plans for a father-son trip to Color