Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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When we were together, I was the one implementing bedtimes, screen time limits, homework supervision - basically everything. Now that we're split, she's suddenly the 'fun parent' w
My oldest (15) doesn't want to see me anymore. Says "mom says you were mean to her" and now refuses to come to my house. Her mom isn't answering calls about it, just keeps saying "
My ex has a habit of texting me at like 11pm asking if I can switch weekends because something came up. For 2 years I've been saying yes because I didn't want to be "that guy." Las
So my ex has been trading weekends with me constantly because of her new boyfriend. I get that people have lives, but I've turned down plans with my girlfriend multiple times to st
My son's elementary school has both our numbers on file but every single time something happens—illness, behavioral thing, whatever—they call his mom first. I'm the primary contact
Quick question: what counts as "reasonable notice" for schedule changes? Mine says 48 hours but my ex keeps texting me at 9pm asking if she can have the kids an extra day starting
Had my 7yo and 9yo for Thanksgiving for the first time since the split. Was honestly nervous about it - didn't want them sad, didn't want to feel like a failure, the whole thing. B
This is becoming a pattern and I'm losing it. My ex asks to swap weekends literally the day before, and when I say no bc I already made plans with my kids, she acts like I'm being
This happened last weekend and I'm still processing it. Picked up Jake from school on Friday and he mentioned that when his mom drops him off at my place, he sees her crying in the
My ex wants to switch from 50/50 to her having the kids (ages 7 and 10) for the full summer because she's doing this camp director thing. I had plans for a father-son trip to Color
S-Tier: OurFamilyWizard (has everything, ex uses it, I pay $200/yr and it's worth it) A-Tier: Talking Parents (loved this but ex won't use it), Custody X Change (great for schedul
Every other week when I pick up my daughter (11) from school, her mom's new bf is there in the driveway waiting with her. Like... that's not even his scheduled time?? I have Thursd
My ex unilaterally decided our 12-year-old is switching schools next year—different district, more competitive academically. She didn't ask me. Our custody agreement says joint cus
Who do we claim the kids on taxes? We split the year roughly 50/50 but not exactly. I know we need to figure this out with our accountant but wanted to know if anyone had a simple
Dating Sarah for 4 months now. My kids (6, 8) haven't met her. She's met my friends but not the kids obviously. She mentioned casually that it'd be cool to come to my son's soccer
My 6-year-old has gotten motion sickness on the 45-minute drive between houses. Pediatrician said half the issue is he's hungry/thirsty before we even leave. Looking for snack id
We decided last year that I'd do Thanksgiving even years and Christmas even years (so this year is hers). That made sense at the time. But my family is huge on Christmas gatherings
This gutted me. Apparently some kid at school said something dumb and it activated this worry he's been having. I've never blamed him, never fought in front of him, tried to keep t
Real talk: I do not like my ex. We have two kids together and we're "civil" but every interaction feels like I'm navigating a minefield. She's late to pickups constantly, cancels p
So I get the kids June 15-22, and she just texted saying she booked a beach trip for June 16-19 and asked if I "could maybe take them those days instead." Like no, that's literally